On Sunday, Pastor Jeremy Johnson continued our series, “Sex, Drugs, Money, More” by
showing us that we are a whole person without anyone else and contrary to popular belief, our
significant other does not complete us. Before we add anyone else to our story, we must realize
that we have a story of our own that God desires us to seek out. We have a life to live right
now, regardless if we have someone by our side or not.
Ephesians 4:19 says, “Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality
so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed.” Our biggest issue in life is
our desire for more. As soon as the Father gives us something, we want more. God put the
desire for more inside of us so that we would long for more of Him. Paul continues in verses 22-
24, “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is
being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23 to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24 and to
put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” God wants us to
stop carrying around our old self so that we can embrace the new self we have become in Him.
We are not just remodels we are new creations! The moment we were saved, our identity went
from sinner to saint. If we continually see ourselves as sinners, we will continually justify
walking in our old behavior.
If we want to add another person to our lives, the first thing we have to do is deepen our
relationship with God. The thing to focus on here is relationship. We have to go beyond the
knowledge of God and allow our knowledge to be tested so that we can begin to walk in
wisdom. Every test we are given is an opportunity to see that God is who He says He is. In order
to enter into a relationship with an imperfect person, we must have a relationship with a
perfect person – Jesus. We have to allow His unconditional love to come in and show us who He
has created us to be so that we can love someone else unconditionally. Someone with flaws
and all.
Another key to take note of before entering into a relationship or even as you are in a
relationship is to seek a whole life. Many single people miss all that God has for them because
they are waiting for their spouse to show up. Our culture has caused us to believe that
singleness is some kind of disease when in reality it is where God has us right now. Two halves
do not make a whole. You are not walking around as half a person. You are a whole person with
a destiny that is meant to be lived out right now with or without a spouse. Your spouse may be
a part of your destiny someday, but do not miss out on what God has for you right now by
sitting back and waiting. Become the person you have always dreamed of being right now. Do
what you have always wanted to do. Take pottery lessons, do karate, go to that movie you’ve
wanted to see for weeks even if you don’t have someone to go with. Take advantage of your
singleness. Go after God and allow Him to show you who He has created you to be and go out
and live life! The idea of marriage and falling in love is wonderful, but your life doesn’t start
there. Your life has already started! This day, this hour, this minute is one that we should take
hold of! If you allow yourself to live a full life with or without someone, you will attain true
contentment. Contentment that is not based on how an imperfect person makes you feel, but

based on the one that has made you a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). The One that has
plans to prosper you right now!
Allow yourself to make the transition from being in love with love to allowing yourself to be
loved by love Himself. Ask God why He made you unique. Why you like what you like and why
you dislike what you dislike. Ask God what He loves about you. Let Him show you that your
body and your personality were wonderfully and fearfully made. Your unique laugh echoes joy
wherever you go. Your smile makes an imprint on all who walk by. There is purpose within how
you were created. Allow Him to show you these things while waiting so that your life is not
dependent on a beautiful yet imperfect person. The groom carries the bride through the
threshold, but can’t carry her forever. We have to learn to walk on our own and be who God
has called us to be without the constant need of affirmation from our significant other. Let’s go
deep with God so that when we go deep with someone else we are not held up by the fears of
not being good enough or not being whole. Allow God to make you whole. It may not happen
overnight, but today is a new day and today is a good day to start!