SEX, DRUGS, MONEY, MORE – SINGLE, BUT NOT YET READY TO MINGLE

On Sunday, Pastor Jeremy Johnson continued our series, “Sex, Drugs, Money, More” by
showing us that if we want to go deep with someone else, we have to deepen our relationship
with God first. No matter what we have done in the past, we need to know that God has never
loved us any less at any point in our lives. Even after Samson’s failures, his hair that linked him
to his strength grew back:
15 Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when you won’t confide in me? This is
the third time you have made a fool of me and haven’t told me the secret of your great
strength. 16 With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was sick to death of it.
17 So he told her everything. “No razor has ever been used on my head,” he said, “because I have
been a Nazirite dedicated to God from my mother’s womb. If my head were shaved, my
strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as any other man.”
18 When Delilah saw that he had told her everything, she sent word to the rulers of the
Philistines, “Come back once more; he has told me everything.” So the rulers of the Philistines
returned with the silver in their hands. 19 After putting him to sleep on her lap, she called for
someone to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and so began to subdue him. [c] And his
strength left him.
20 Then she called, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!”
He awoke from his sleep and thought, “I’ll go out as before and shake myself free.” But he did
not know that the Lord had left him.
21 Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes and took him down to Gaza. Binding him
with bronze shackles, they set him to grinding grain in the prison. 22 But the hair on his head
began to grow again after it had been shaved (Judges 16:15-22).
Samson broke his promise to God to never reveal the source of his strength, but even after he
shared his secret and lost his strength, it grew back! Some of you need to know that even if you
have lost your way with God recently, God can restore what was taken from you, just as he did
with Samson. It doesn’t matter if you got yourself in a mess or someone else did. He can restore
you. Samson was a man who lived his life moving forward, but always looking backward. Before
this encounter, he had a failed relationship with a woman he cared for deeply. When he was
with Delilah, it was not just to get his sexual needs met. He was trying to fill a void from his
past. If you continue to look at your past as you move forward, you cannot live the life God has
called you to live because your vision is no longer on one thing – the purpose of God. It is on
your past pain.
One of the best things you can do when you are single, but not ready to mingle, is to deepen
your relationship with God. This may seem like common sense or just a predictable pastoral
answer, but it is often times something we overlook, not realizing that our relationship with the
perfect person of Jesus is what will lead us to a prosperous relationship with an imperfect
person. Deepening a relationship with someone who has zero flaws and who has the ability and

desire to set us free from everything that hinders us, gives us the ability to love those around us
in spite of their flaws.
To deepen your relationship with God does not mean you have to do more. Our identity is not
actually linked to what we do, but whom we are as sons and daughters who can now go boldly
to the throne of God. Knowing your Bible is good, devotions are good and church is good, but
just because you do all of those things does not mean you have a deep relationship with God.
Knowledge is just that, knowledge. Knowledge learned, but not lived and tested is not wisdom.
We are called to walk in wisdom and truth, not knowledge and truth. Many of us want to walk
on water when the first step is to get in the boat. Stop beating yourself up on the shore and
know that God wants relationship with you more than you know. He wants your pain to go
away more than you do. That is why it is important to allow Him to come into your life beyond
the words on the page.
Ask Him to come into the painful places of your heart and bring healing to those places. If you
are just starting out your journey with God and you are not sure if you can trust Him, give Him a
little at a time. Allow your knowledge of His goodness be tested and proven true. He is not
intimidated by your questions. He is waiting for you to ask them. He wants you to know beyond
any doubt that He loves you the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. Do not allow your
feelings to tell you otherwise and keep you from being free of your past. God is a gentleman.
Your relationship with Him can go at the pace you want it to go. He is not abusive like people in
your past. He is not going to take advantage of you. The safest place your heart can be is in His
hands. All you have to do is get in the boat and allow Him to show you that He is real. Take
some time today and ask Jesus to show you that He is who He says He is. Allow the truth of who
He is to wash away all the pain of your past so that you can, not only move forward, but look
forward to the purpose and promises ahead of you.