FEED THE MONSTER PART 2: ANGRY MONSTER

This past Sunday Pastor Christy Johnson shared part two of the series “Feed
The Monster.” She explored the “angry monster” and its three parts: Physical Rage,
Verbal Rage and Emotional Rage.

Underneath all the anger that we experience is the need to control. We may
try to achieve that by slamming doors, slamming people with unkind words, or
shutting down, completely cutting ourselves off from anything positive or negative.
We learn how to process our emotions from the environment we grew up in. The
benchmark that our parents set for us is the benchmark we will imitate in our lives.
God gave us the ability to have emotions. He’s not overwhelmed by them or
disappointed when we express them. It’s how we express them that makes all the
difference. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and sin not.” So, being angry is not a sin
by itself but becomes a sin when we lose control of it and let it control us.

One of the side effects of not being able to control your anger is physical rage.
We’ve probably all slammed a door or two, or we may have even thrown things
across the room. Doing an act like this may make us feel like we are in control for a
second, but the reality is, we are completely out of control if we can’t manage our
emotions.

Another symptom that may occur if we let our anger get the best of us is
verbal rage. This isn’t just screaming at people, but it’s when you strip them of their
dignity and use their vulnerability against them. The rage is actually the force
behind the point you’re trying to make. You can be right about the point you are
trying to make in the moment but be wrong about the anger. Anger completely
dismisses and takes the place of your point. If you communicate with people angrily,
all they are going to pay attention to is the anger, and your point will be lost.

Your words can wound deeply. Your tongue can be a deadly concealed
weapon if you choose to use it in that manner. Proverbs 12:18 says, “The words of
the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” If our
words can wound deeply, then they can also heal deeply. Why is it so easy for us to
lean towards the negative when we have loads of compliments floating through our
minds? What if we said out loud the positive things we think about people? The
strength our relationships could have if we communicated from that place would be
incredible.

According to James 3:3-5 (MSG) says, “A bit in the mouth of a horse controls
the whole horse. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets
a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of
no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!” The bit in the
mouth of the horse, which is considerably smaller than the horse itself, controls the
direction in which the horse goes, just like the words on our tongue. The words we
speak over our lives determine the direction that we will go. The words that we
have spoken are why we are the way we are and why we are where we are. If what
you want is different than what you have, ask yourself, “What have I been
speaking?” If you declare the negative you will get the negative, but if you declare
the positive, you will get the positive in return.
In James 3:6 our mouths are described as a forest fire. You cannot reverse the
affects of a forest fire just like you cannot reverse the affects of your words. You can
apologize but the scars are still there.

Emotional rage is another form of anger that is out of control. Emotional rage
is when you completely shut down instead of communicate what you are frustrated
about. When you shut down you are shutting yourself off from experiencing the
good and the bad. You can’t have some of your emotions and not others. Anger has
to be managed, not muted. Ecclesiastes 7:9 says that “…anger lodges in the heart of
fools.” Heart issues are so hard to get rid of because when you’ve given something a
license, you can’t confiscate the weapon because you’ve given it a license. If you’ve
given yourself over to anger and give yourself excuses to stay where you are, it will
continue to rule your life. Thankfully, Jesus came to set us free! Ask Him to help you
navigate and manage your anger in a healthy way. Change the course of your life by
using your words in a positive way. Know that when you choose to let go of excuses
you give yourself to remain the way you have been, you are on the road to freedom!
It is for freedom that Christ has set you free, and nothing is impossible with Him.